Whether you are a brand new husband eager to make her the happiest bride, or a long-wedded spouse wishing to rediscover the fun-loving girl you married, here are some simple ways to make, and keep your wife happy.

1Make her your number one priority.

There is nothing wrong with going out with the guys. But if you have plans with your wife, don’t back out on her for your friends. If you’re a workaholic, make sure it is obvious that you are still her number one.

2Introduce her with a compliment.

Saying something like “I’d like you to meet my beautiful wife,” or “Here’s my better half” goes farther than you may realize. Publicly recognizing her as your cherished partner validates that you love her.

3Embrace when you see her.

At the end of a long day conquering office battles and keeping the kids from climbing walls, you could both use a loving hug. Make a point of showing you missed her and are glad to be reunited. A big kiss doesn’t hurt, either.

4Open up to her about yourself.

She wants to know what is making you happy and what is stressing you out. This is how she connects with you. She actually cares about what you had for lunch and the strange thing you saw on the way home. Don’t reply to your wife’s questions with one-word answers. Elaborate.

5Be active around the house.

Take out the trash, help her with laundry and make the bed. Simple chores show how you care about making the house feel like home. She will appreciate your efforts.

6Learn to give and accept an apology.

If you really want to make your wife happy, then you should know that being happy is much more important than being right. You need to swallow your pride and step up if you’ve made a mistake and be reasonable enough to accept your wife’s apology if she is the one who erred.

7Hold her hand in public.

Some women are less inclined to public displays, but when appropriate, reach out and squeeze her hand. With the reassurance you’re proud she’s yours, she’ll walk a little taller, and smile a little bigger.

8Leave her notes.

You don’t have to be Shakespeare; the thought matters most here. Focus on specific things you love about her; the wrinkle in her nose when she laughs or how she finds joy in the little things. You can hide it in her makeup bag, under her pillow, or somewhere else she’ll discover it. She’ll be happily surprised and treasure your words for years to come.

9Open the door for her.

Chivalry is not dead. Opening the door and pulling the chair for her at dinner is a gentlemanly way to take care of your lady. She likely grew up wanting to be a princess. Be her prince.

10Make time for romantic getaways.

Make a goal of going away somewhere exotic together at least once a year. Book your trip well in advance so when the time comes, you can’t say you’re too busy as an excuse. If your budget is really tight or if it’s difficult for you to find a sitter, have a goal of at least going away from the weekend together from time to time.

11Work out together.

Getting your endorphins going together is a great way for you and your wife to maintain healthy bodies and to mingle your body chemistry. Take the time to work out with her or to just get some mild exercise together at least once a week.

12Keep it fresh in the bedroom.

Keep things fresh and exciting in the bedroom. You don’t have to take a trip to the sex store to maintain and exciting and rewarding sex life. Be adventurous. Don’t be afraid to make love in new positions or in new places.

13Give her personal space.

Give her some time to herself. Letting her do her own thing once in awhile will make you appreciate each other even more. Let her have a girls’ night with her friends once in awhile. You don’t have to be there at every social event, either.

14Maintain your appearance.

You should try to be presentable at all times and work to maintain your handsome looks. If you two don’t care how you look anymore, then you’re lacking in the romance department. Take a shower every day and continue to smell fresh. Don’t let hygiene get in the way of you and your wife.

15Listen to her. Just listen.

Sit and listen when she wants to share. Sometimes you may ask questions to let her dig deeper into her thoughts and emotions. Don’t try to solve the problem unless asked. Women often just want to talk through their feelings, while men feel compelled to offer a quick fix.

16Invite her parents over.

Your wife’s parents mean a lot to her, so ask them over for Thanksgiving or any such special occasion. It will assure her that you consider them part of your own family and this will make her really happy for marrying you.

17Recreate your first date.

Take your wife out in exactly the same way as you had done on your first date. The romantic gesture will be sure to make her giddy with love and happiness all over again.

18Let her fly.

As her partner, you are in the best position to help her reach her dreams.